I have grown up believing that loyalty is a great thing to have. And I agree. But I also believe that it has been manipulated on us for to help those who have perceived power over us as people. Be loyal to your job even though they cut your pay, decrease your benefits and increase your workload…. Don’t go and work on a business in your own time that will increase your wealth and not theirs. Or this thought, I can’t start a direct sales job on my own time, it is against company policy. Who cares that that policy doesn’t give a hoot about you or your family.
I think it is time to redefine loyalty and who we give it to. Be loyal to your family, your immediate family. Your wife and children family. Be loyal to yourself. If you feel badly about doing something you are asked to do, don’t do it. You have to sleep with yourself and your family at night not your employer. You would think this is commons sense.
How about when it applies to your bills and mortgage. It is not so clear cut. You are underwater on your house so you can’t sell it yet your credit cards are calling you 5 and 6 times a day and you need to feed your family. I know how it is to have trouble letting go of a house from loyalty, I also know how difficult it is to receive those call from our friend, BILL. Ultimately be loyal to your family and yourself. Look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. The greatest responsibility is to feed and cloth our families and put a roof over their heads.
There is no shame in Bankruptcy or short sales if it allows you to care for yourself and your family. Don’t lose hope, there is always a way through the quicksand.